Making Love

My boyfriend and I somehow got into this debate last night about the phrase "making love" versus the phrase "having sex." I said that I would never ever use the phrase "making love" and that if he ever asked me to make love to him I might just throw up in my mouth a little bit.

He was offended by this.

I just don't like the term and think that it is sort of creepy sounding and doesn't depict the kind of sex that I want to have. Even if I love someone and am having sex, I would never ever call it making love.

But, he asked me to write a blog entry about this and get your take. What do you think of the term "making love?"

Grade: D


Blogger equippedtofascinate said...

I agree with you on this one Charlie. I hate that term. Most of the time you aren't making love, but just having wild passion.

11:49 AM, March 11, 2006  
Blogger Michael said...

Although I wouldn't fight over the use of the term "making love," I definitely believe the concept behind it is valid and should be acknowledged.

Of course even with (or hopefully especially with) your boyfriend, you will have great sex that can be enjoyed in a purely-physical sense, but I strongly believe that I grew closer emotionally to my boyfriend in the bedroom than just about anywhere else. Whether it is during foreplay, the "act" itself, or cuddling afterwards, that is the time in which you are most "real" with each other....nothing is hidden by clothing or social conventions, you are who you are and make yourself vulnerable in a sense to each other. When you can get to the point that you have that amount of love and trust for each other, the physical act of sex can (I truly believe) be a conduit for you to grow in your love for one another more than almost any other time. So, in that regard, are you "making love"? Again, maybe the term has become cliche, but I would fight for the concept.

Of course, I'm the die-hard hopelessly-optimistic romantic. :)

12:21 PM, March 11, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree with Michael. I don't necessarily like the phrase, but the concept is what I like. It's just nicer to hear when you are with your partner than "f-ing" or "screwing" etc. Don't get me wrong...there is a time to be sweet and then a time to just rip your clothes off and have at it. It's all semantics anyway.


12:27 PM, March 11, 2006  
Blogger casey said...

I agree with with Michael and Bruce. I personally don't think I could use the phrase without giggling, but "having sex" and "making love" are two different things. You can have sex with anyone, but you can't "make love" with everyone. Or at least you shouldn't. :)

3:58 PM, March 11, 2006  
Blogger Chicago_Sexbox said...

I have never used the term since I am a slut. However, even if I wasn't a slut I wouldn't use it. It sounds corny.

5:24 PM, March 11, 2006  
Blogger Dustin J. Harder said...

I think that even if you are having ass slappin nasty fucking all over the place wet sex...as long as its with the person you truly TRULY love, it's making love. NOW...If you dont love the person....it's having sex. there-easy as pie.

5:32 PM, March 11, 2006  
Blogger amandarama said...

The straight woman says: I concur. The phrase "making love" is lame. I only use it in jest, like "Remember when we made love last night? I felt the earth move." See? Ridiculous. The concept is different, but never during sex do I think "I'm making love right now," even though I LOVE my man. "Having sex" is functional and covers all the bases.

9:21 PM, March 11, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have never used the term "making love" but I agree with Michael, I like the idea of it. Sex can just be sex, a physical act, but when it is with someone who you really like/love it is special and could be thought of as "making love."

10:30 PM, March 11, 2006  
Blogger michael s said...

"making love" is a totally gross term I would never use, but I dont judge, so if someone else wants to use it, fine...but dont expect me to. And who cares what you call it, as long as your DOING it. call it 'Stanley' for chrissakes. Now get back to fucking....

9:29 PM, March 12, 2006  
Blogger David said...

charlie said it best, throwing up in my mouth a little bit.

9:44 PM, March 12, 2006  
Blogger Noah said...

Making love sounds so archaic and I associate gross 80s things with it. Like, shoulder pads, magnum PI mustaches, Melanie Griffith, and chunky gold jewelry.

10:55 AM, March 13, 2006  

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